Being an effective leader will require you to be brave and unlock the door to your inner attic, where your childhood dreams lie, going inside to the heart.
Here are 10 easy steps you can take to awaken the leader in you and rekindle your passion for greatness:
1.Be Yourself.
Use your relationships with mentors and your research on great leaders as models or reference points to work from, but never copy or imitate them like a parrot.Everyone has vastly different leadership styles. History books are filled with leaders whoare soft-spoken, introverted, and quiet, all the way to the other extreme of being outspoken, extroverted, and loud, and everything in between.
2. Dream Big.If you want to be larger than life, you need a dream that’s larger than life. Small dreams won’t serve you or anyone else. It takes the same amount of time to dream small than it does to dream big. So be Big and be Bold! Write down your One Biggest Dream. The one that excites you the most. Remember, don’t be small and realistic; be bold and unrealistic!
3. Follow Your Bliss.Regardless of how busy you are, always take time to do what you love doing. Being an alive and vital person vitalizes others. When you are pursuingyour passions, people around you cannot help but feel impassioned by your presence.This will make you a charismatic leader. Whatever it is that you enjoy doing, be it writing, acting, painting, drawing, photography, sports, reading, dancing, networking, orworking on entrepreneurial ventures, set aside time every week, ideally two or threehours a day, to pursue these activities.
4. SWOT Yourself.SWOT is an acronym for Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats. This is a useful key to gain access to self knowledge, self-remembering, and self-honoring. Start by listing all your Strengths including your accomplishments. Then writedown all your Weaknesses and what needs to be improved.
Make sure to include anydoubts, anxieties, fears, and worries that you may have. These are the demons anddragons guarding the door to your inner attic. By bringing them to conscious awareness you can begin to slay them. Then proceed by listing all the Opportunities you see available to you for using your strengths. Finally, write down all the Threats or obstacles that are currently blocking you or that you think you will encounter along the way to achieving your dreams.
5. Vision.Without a vision, we perish. If you can’t see yourself winning that award and feel the tears of triumph streaming down your face, it’s unlikely you will be able to lead yourself or others to victory. Visualize what it would be like accomplishing your dream.See it, smell it, taste it, hear it, feel it in your gut.
6. Perseverance.Victory belongs to those who want it the most and stay in it the longest. Now that you have a dream, make sure you take consistent action every day. I recommend doing at least 5 things every day that will move you closer to your dream.
7. Honour Your Word.Every time you break your word, you lose power. Successful leaders keep their word and their promises. You can accumulate all the toys and riches in the world, but you only have one reputation in life. Your word is gold. Honour it.
8. Get a Mentor.
Find yourself a mentor. Preferably someone who has already achieved a high degree of success in your field. Don’t be afraid to ask. You’ve got nothing to lose.They even have a free personal profile you can fill out in order to potentially find you a suitable mentor. In addition to mentors, take time to study autobiographies of great leaders that you admire. Learn everything you can from their lives and model some of their successful behaviors.
9. Humility. Leadership starts with humility. To be a highly successful leader, you must first humble yourself like a little child and be willing to serve others. Nobody wants to follow someone who is arrogant. Be humble as a child, always curious, always hungry and thirsty for knowledge. For what is excellence but knowledge plus knowledge plus knowledge - always wanting to better yourself, always improving, always growing.When you are humble, you become genuinely interested in people because you want to learn from them.
10. Give.Finally, be a giver. Leaders are givers. By giving, you activate a universal law as sound as gravity: .life gives to the giver, and takes from the taker.. The more you give,the more you get. If you want more love, respect, support, and compassion, give love,give respect, give support, and give compassion. Be a mentor to others. Give back to yourcommunity. As a leader, the only way to get what you want, is by helping enough peopleget what they want first.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Friday, September 21, 2007
5 Super Tips for Improving Communication Skill
It might sound an over-simplification, but it's true. The
best way of improving communication skill is through
practice. There are some easy and fun ways that you
can improve your communication skill, though, so you
needn't worry about it being too hard to do.
Remember that communication can be either written or
spoken. Both of these improve with practice and here
are some fun ways to do that:
1. Write down your thoughts
Just write down anything. It can be impromptu and you
Don't have to show these ideas to anyone. This helps you
to be able to order your thoughts logically.
However, if you find that you enjoy this way of expressing
yourself, you could join an online community or article
database which will publish your articles. There are lots
of opportunities like this online and some even offer
payment, but what is probably more important and more
gratifying is knowing that people are reading your
opinions.
You may even find a site where articles are ranked
by your peers. If you dare to subject yourself to such
ranking, then you can be pleasantly surprised at how highly
regarded your writing becomes.
2. Learn from other communicators
Watch speakers on TV or go to lectures. See how the
experts do it. You can learn a lot this way, seeing
what you liked about their way of putting their message
across.
In improving communication skill, it's important to
have the confidence to get your own style. Getting some
tips from others is fine, but no-one has all the answers
and you may well have some good ideas yourself.
Your communication style needs to be individual to you
and you need to feel comfortable communicating in this
way for it to be really effective.
3. Try the telephone
Telephone conversations take a different set of skills.
Obviously, one big difference is that you can't read
body language of the person you're talking to on the end
of the telephone line. Also, without this body language
to read, silences can seem much longer over the phone.
They are still important pauses to allow people to think,
though, so you need to learn not to be frightened of
these pauses in conversation.
4. Chat to people
Try holding a conversation with anyone you meet - the
Bank cashier or the man you pay for your gas when
You fill up the car. Anyone. It's the practice that
matters.
5. Strike up a debate
One way of improving communication skill that you may not
have considered is getting a few friends together and having
a friendly debate. Pick a current topic in which you are all
interested. It doesn't have to be anything weighty or in any
way controversial; in fact, whilst you are just starting out
improving your communication skill, it really should be
something light and fun in which everyone can
participate.
Serve up the coffee and have fun with the debate. It can
be casual and low-key and if you really want to have
fun with it, which not switch to argue on the opposite
side a little way into the debate. That's a great way of
improving communication skill. Keep it impersonal and
remember not to directly attack anyone and you can
have a really fun time and also learn a lot in the process.
So, try a few of these tips and see how much more
comfortable you feel in communicating with other people,
both people you know and strangers. You will soon be
improving communication skills in all areas of your life
and you should be enjoying it too.
And do remember, exceptional communication skills can be
learned.
Find a proven formula and follow it. You will be amazed at
how quickly you will progress. Although some people fear
otherwise, people skills can be learned by anyone of at
least average intelligence.
The difficulties you had in the past will not stop you
making rapid progress now. What matters is learning a
proven approach you can use for the rest of your life.
I did it. It took me several years.
MEMBENTUK IMEJ DIRI YANG POSITIF
Faktor terpenting yang mempengaruhi harga diri kita ialah imej diri. Apa itu yang dikatakan imej diri? Imej diri merupakan gambaran mental tentang diri seseorang atau siapa kita fikirkan tentang diri kita.
Sebahagian besar imej diri anda telah dirosakkan oleh tanggapan pengalaman masa lampau anda: kejayaan dan kegagalan,Anda menjadi apa yang anda paling kerap fikirkan. Apa sahaja yang lazim anda fikirkan akhirnya terpahat dalam minda separa sedar anda. Apa-apa pun yang dipercayai sebagai benar oleh minda sedar anda, akan dianggap benar dan diterima sebagai satu kepercayaan oleh minda separa sedar dan membawanya ke tahap realiti.
Imej diri juga menentukan batas pencapaian seseorang; apa yang boleh dan tidak boleh anda lakukan.Ramai orang gagal mencapai kejayaan yang besar dalam kehidupan kerana imej diri yang negatif, dan bukan kerana kekurangan kemampuan atau bakat. Orang yang mempunyai imej diri yang negatif lazimnya akan mempunyai harga diri yang rendah. Oleh itu, mereka berasa tidak yakin untuk hidup cemerlang serta tidak kompeten untuk menangani cabaran-cabaran asas dalam kehidupan. Imej diri yang rendah menapis sebarang mesej positif dan mereka sentiasa berfikiran negatif.Sebab itulah bagi sesetengah orang bengkel motivasi tidak memberi sebarang makna bagi mereka.
Ramai orang, terutama mereka yang mempunyai harga diri yang rendah, telah menjadi mangsa pemprograman lalu berdasarkan input negatif daripada orang lain Ketika membesar, ramai antara kita telah dihujani oleh input negatif daripada orang lain seperti Kamu tidak pandai!, Mengapa kamu bengap sangat?Kamu orang miskin apa yang kamu tahu?kamu tidak hebat! Dan lain-lain label negatif lagi..
Ramai orang mempunyai imej diri yang herot yang tidak mencerminkan potensi sebenar mereka (bakat dan kemampuan sebenar). Kita telah diajar menjadi negatif oleh orang lain. Kita telah menerima input negatif daripada orang lain dan mengangapnya sebagai sesuatu yang mutlak.
Di bawah ini dicadangkan beberpa langkah untuk memprogramkan semula imej diri anda:
1. Tuntutlah kebenaran tentang diri anda. Kebenaran itu akan membebaskan anda daripada belenggu pemprograman negatif masa lampau. Adakah imej diri anda kini mencerminkan Anda Yang Sebenar? Apakah kekuatan dan kelemahan anda? Apakah kepercayaan
2. Cabar dan padamkan kepercayaan negatif anda. Katakan “Berhenti” atau “Batalkan “ atau berkata "tidak" dengan kuat apabila anda bertembung dengan fikiran negatif.
3. Gantikan fikiran negatif dengan fikiran positif. Fikirkan kejayaan, bukannya kegagalan. Jangan sekali-kali merendahkan diri anda. Lihat diri anda dari perspektif baru; sahabat karib diri anda.
4. Tonjolkan fikiran positif dari semasa ke semasa. Perteguhkan imej diri anda dengan menulis pernyataan-pernyataan positif tentang diri anda pada kad-kad pengesahan. Letakkan kad-kad itu di tempat yang sesuai agar anda dapat melihatnya setiap hari (contohnya, di atas meja anda atau pada cermin muka di bilik air).
5. Bayangkan gambar mental baru anda yang berjaya. Ini akan membolehkan minda separa sedar anda bertindak balas seolah-olah anda sudah berjaya dalam usaha baru anda.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
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